How to Find The Right Mentor Without Even Trying

How to find the right mentor without even trying 

In this episode, you’ll discover what it takes the find the mentor that fits your values so that you can grow exponentially in your professional and personal life.

And by the end of this episode, you’ll realize that you don’t have to try hard to get the right mentor when you know these secret hacks that I’ll be sharing with you. 

Why you should get a mentor?

First things first, we have to understand why we should get one. 

We all hear this expression that “you are the sum of the people that you meet every single day”. That if you want to grow, you’ve got to surround yourself with the right people. 

And this speaks about who you associate yourself with. 

When you get the right mentor, you can get the right association and influence.

You’ll be handed the right tools, strategies, and ways on how you can get from point A to point B. That’s what mentor does - to teach you, to guide you to the way that you want to go.

And because a mentor has been ahead of you, they already experienced both failure and successes which can provide you with valuable lessons in your journey.

Why is that important? Well, if you know the mistakes they’ve made, you can avoid them which saves you decades of trying to do it through trial and error.

And because they become successful in their own ways, you know that what they will teach you have proven to be effective in their personal or professional lives.

Before finding a mentor, what is your reason of finding one? What is your intention? Because that will be your main reason along the way.

When people ask me in events, and seminars (now in webinars) as to how to find the right mentor, I always say you don’t have to.

And the reason is that trying to find the right mentor is not the best possible way to finding the right one.

Simply because the right mentor for you should be established naturally along the way. It is not forced, you don’t have to force to find the right one. But by knowing these exact principles that I’ll share, you get to find the right mentor without you even trying it. You can even attract them if you know these principles.

Principle #1: You attract who you are

This principle is applicable either in 1 on 1 or group mentoring. 

You don’t start with finding great mentors, it starts with you. 

And even if you have money to pay for 1 on 1 mentorship, you’ll end up paying more if you don’t invest in yourself first. 

The best way is to start investing yourself. In attending seminars, networking opportunities, book launches of top speakers, reading books -- you do mentorship first yourself. 

Because once you instill the mindset of personal development, it would be easier for you to find the right mentor because now you have sets of preferences to consider.

Principle #2: Good mentorship starts naturally

Without even trying, you’ll soon find mentors. 

Do not take for granted your circle of friends. 

I personally have friends in my circle that I consider as my mentors, One in the area of servant leadership, another is on personal finance, another friend on relationships.

With that, I don’t have to pay much money with mastermind or private groups (which is another good way to get high-level learnings), but if you’re just starting out, you surround yourself with friends who can also be your mentors.

What about your colleagues in the office? Your boss in your previous company can also be your mentor. Invite them in a dinner or lunch, and ask professional advice. 

The best mentorship I know starts with having authentic relationships with people I trust. 

Principle #3: Mentorship is anchored in the right values

It’s easy to find a mentor, but finding a good one, even better or best, isn’t that easy.

Because the better or the best should have values similar to yours. You jive in because you have the same foundation.

Of course, in the professional setting, he or she may not something you don’t know yet, which is good.

But having preferences is secondary to values. Once you know your values, you can easily match it to someone who is similar to yours.

Principle #4: Have a list of preferences and needs

I’ll share with you one truth about mentorship.

The truth is: you can’t find one single mentor who can teach you everything.

When it comes to mentorship, a person is only as good in 1 or 2 areas, at most. While some seem good at everything, they can only share what they only experience. But in general, you get learnings at best in 1 or 2 areas.

So now, start by having a list of your preferences and needs.

Here are some guiding questions to help you with this:

  1. What do you need at the moment?
  2. What general or specific advice are you looking for? Money management, relationships, leadership?
  3. How many resources you can allot to mentorship? Time, money, and even added value to the person you’re getting mentorship from.

Once you answer these questions, you’ll have at least a clear picture of your preferences and needs. Then you’ll ready for the next important piece of the puzzle.

Principle #5: Reach out 

It’s just that. You reach out.

I know some of you have this personality of being shy, introverted, not really into talking to people. 

But the thing is if you want to get mentors, it takes only a little step. One small step of reaching out.

I’ve had opportunities to meet great people here in the Philippines by simply asking them for a coffee chat. 15-minute, 30-minute, some meetings take 1 hour or more. 

But regardless of how much they’re willing to invest, I was able to do the first small step -- which is to reach out to them.

Who are the people you’re looking up to in your industry?

Do you have in your networks you’d want to get in touch with for natural mentorship?

The truth is, not all of them will say yes to your invitation. Some will say no for many reasons - busy schedules, and all that.

But you have to start somewhere. And that includes reaching out to them.

So why not start today.

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Let’s learn from one another. It’s time to grow personally and professionally. See you in our next episode.


Smarter Way To Set Goals (2 Goal Setting Factors You Probably Didn’t Know)

You know SMART goals. Specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-bound. This is good, but there is a better way to set goals. We call it SMARTER. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to set SMARTER goals so that you’ll end up this year with achievements and progress in life.  And at the end of this episode, the two factors in SMARTER acronym, E & R that makes a difference in how you set your goals. 

Goal setting is important not because of what you’ll get, but because of how it can help you achieve the person you want to become. 

The late Jim Rohn says this best, “The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.”

The person you want to become is far greater than the things you’ll get at the end of this year. 

If you want to set goals, here’s a SMARTER way of doing so.

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Specific 

Specificity brings clarity. The more specific your goals, the clearer you can see your goals. And when it comes to achieving it, there is the likelihood you can achieve them because they are clear to you in the first place.

Starting an online business is not specific. Starting an eCommerce dropshipping business is a specific goal. A more specific could be Starting an eCommerce dropshipping business targeting customers in Metro Manila (as your city). 

Make it more specific. Because your brain can’t function or focus on many things. Practice specifying your goals are. Or if you have written your goals already, ask how can you make them as specific as possible. 

Measurable

This is the next piece of the goal-setting puzzle. It should be measurable. 

By measurable, it means quality and quantity.

There are goals that are hard to measure by quality but can be measured by quantity. There are also goals that are difficult to measure by quantity but can be measured by quantity.

An increase in sales is not a measurable goal. Increase leads by 200% this month is a measurable goal. 

You can add a more quality factor to it. So instead of setting a goal like, “increase qualified leads by 200% this month” is a better goal.

Attainable

Attainable doesn’t mean that you should base it depending on your skills and gifts - that a goal can be attained if you have the skill or capacity to do it.

Attainable means that is within your current context. For instance, you’ve set a goal as a financial advisor to be the top advisor in your agency this year - that is attainable. But if you’re not a financial advisor yourself, it is attainable not unless you’ve joined an insurance company this year.

Attainable is simply using your common sense. Can you attain it based on your current setup and context right now? 

Risky

In the common SMART goals that you know, R stands for Realistic. 

So people set their goals based on what they think can be realistic for them. So let’s say their current income is 30,000 per month, they set realistic goals of let’s say 50,000 or 60,000 pesos, double the income. That itself is realistic.

The problem with setting realistic goals is not it is not getting you out of your comfort zone. Realistic means it is still within your current capacity or just a double of your current capacity.

If you really want to not just get things, but be a better person this year, you want to set RISKY goals, not realistic goals. 

RISKY involves faith in the process.

It goes beyond your comfort zone. Your limits. Your capacity.

It may not be too good to be true with your current setup, but it pushes you to grow and progress in life. That is better than settling for a good with realistic goals. 

Time-keyed

Time-keyed or time-bound means that you set goals within a time frame.

In 2 years, in 2 months, in 2 weeks. It is setting a deadline for every goal. Without any deadline or time frame, you’re likely to procrastinate things. 

You end up not accomplishing things because the goal can still be done next year, not this year.

Setting time-keyed goals are important because it gives you urgency in what you do. When things are urgent, and when you’re seeing a perceived goal by the end of date and time, you get those things done. 

The next two factors are not included in the common SMART goal setting system.

The first factor is E - which is:

Exciting

It is very obvious, but most goals aren’t exciting for the person.

If you want to achieve your goals, not only set them, you have to make sure they are exciting.

And by excitement, it means that when you think of the goal, you’d like to wake up in the morning and make it happen. That is exciting. 

Once you see your goal, it should be exciting for you, not energy draining. Anything that is draining your energy is something you have to avoid. 

Make sure your goals are exciting.

The most important piece of all in the SMARTER goals is R - relevant.

Relevant

Goals should be relevant to you.

You can set goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, risky, time-bound, and exciting, but if they are not relevant to you -- these goals are useless.

Relevant means that is personal to you. 

Do not set goals based on what other people say to you that you want to do this year. Do not set goals based on what you see from other people’s timelines - their aspirations. Their aspirations are not your personal aspirations.

Relevant goals mean that they are unique to you. They are different because they have this personal touch.

When you set your goals, you know it is you who wrote them down. 

Set relevant goals.


5 Reasons Why Resolutions Don’t Work (And Focus On This Instead)

Why New Year’s resolutions don’t work, even if you have good intentions? And why goals are more important to set than resolutions? 

In this week’s episode, you’ll discover what makes a goal exciting. And by the end of the episode, you’ll be more confident not to settle for less with resolutions. 

Resolutions. Resolutions. Resolutions. We all see these lists everywhere. 

At the beginning of this year, people start creating their own list of New Year’s resolutions, whether that is being physically fit, starting an online business, saving enough money to buy an asset -- whether tangible or intangible, people set these resolutions.

But why is it most people fail to accomplish these resolutions, even if they have good intentions in the first place?

Resolutions don’t work because:

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Resolutions are sometimes not personal

The thing with social media is when you see somebody posting what they want in life, there is a tendency to copy it and make it your own.

While it’s good to be inspired by what you see, it’s not a good thing not to know what you really want in life, and simply copy what everybody else is doing. 

Resolutions don’t work because they’re not mostly personal. 

Another reason why resolutions don’t work is that:

Resolutions only resolve past resolutions

What does it mean? When people create their resolutions list, they only refer back to resolutions that didn’t work last year. As simple as, they copy and paste what they were not able to finish the previous year. 

And given that for some reasons, resolutions won’t turn into reality again. These resolutions set this year will be the same old resolutions for next year. 

Resolutions don't work because they are not clear

There is no clarity. Starting an online business, as a resolution won’t work, simply because it is not specific, there is no clarity.

When a thing is not clear to you, you usually end up not doing it. 

Resolutions are done once, and not periodic

This means, that most resolutions are just a hope in a miss. People see that once these resolutions are done, it is like a lucky charm of their life, that things will work out easily. 

While change can happen, resolutions don’t work simply by hoping for things to happen. You have to make things happen. 

So instead of setting a resolution, set a goal. Focus on goals, instead of resolutions.

Goal, by definition is the object of a person's ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.

Why goals are better than resolutions?

Goals are specific.

It is an aim, something you can specify. The clearer a goal is, the more likely you can achieve it. 

Goals should be SMARTER. Specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, time-bound... We’ll cover more about SMARTER goals in our next episodes. 

The next reason why goals are better than resolutions is that...

Goals can be broken down into daily activities.

Whereas, resolutions are not achievable not because it is unrealistic, but most of the time, they are not tied to our daily activities. 

When you put your goals into your day-to-day living by setting up routines to make that work for you, then you’re likely to achieve what you really want in life. 

To start with this goal setting, think about the 10 domains of your life: 

  1. Physical
  2. Emotional
  3. Social
  4. Intellectual
  5. Spiritual
  6. Vocational
  7. Avocational
  8. Financial
  9. Marital
  10. Parental

What do you want to achieve this year to each of these domains?

Get a paper. Take 10 minutes of your time to think about it. Write down these goals. 

Instead of you and I setting a resolution, why not set a goal for yourself. 


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How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs

What you believe is what you behave, and that’s what you become in the process.

Overcoming limiting beliefs sets you up to becoming truly successful. 

I’ll give you 3 tips to overcome your limiting beliefs using this ABC method. 

Awareness 

To be aware of beliefs that limit you. 

In our post on limiting beliefs, we’ve covered the 3 types of limiting beliefs. 

First is your beliefs about the world -- this refers to how you see your environment, the industry of your career -- as simple as your external views.

The second type is your limiting beliefs about others, your rejections, your past experiences, and disappointments dealing with other people.

And lastly your limiting beliefs about yourself -- your intimidations, how you see your age, background, and status as hindrances towards achieving your goals.

You have to know your limiting beliefs -- whether that’s limiting beliefs about the world, others, or yourself.

You can write them down on a piece of paper. By having it on paper, you can gain clarity and awareness of what limits your personal growth. 

Bridge

To bridge means to go from where you are right now to where you want to go.

It is having the right destination and direction.

If you want to overcome your limiting beliefs, you have to cross the bridge. You can’t live your life knowing you have those limiting beliefs.

So what do you do now, is to replace these limiting beliefs with liberating truths. 

To bridge from limiting beliefs to liberating truths.

To do this, remember what you wrote on paper. You can add another column to that and label it as your liberating truths.

Ask yourself this question, what is the truth to replace this limiting belief? 

If you wrote, “I’m too young to start a business, I don’t have a wide experience.”

The liberating truth is, “Yes, I’m young to start a new venture. I do have the creativity, resources, and enough time to get enough experiences.”

Now, you do that to every limiting belief. Find the truth. And replace what you currently believe in with the truth. 

To replace your limiting beliefs, you have to know the liberating truths. 

Change

Now that you are aware of your limiting beliefs, and have replaced them with liberating truths.

It’s time to change.

The only way to overcome limiting beliefs is to start changing yourself.

What do you have to change?

First is your intentions.

Your motives. If you truly have to replace limiting beliefs with liberating truths, your motives have to change. What you value as a person. 

The next thing you have to change is your actions.

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So start changing your actions. Change your habits. Change your lifestyle. Change the way you speak to other people, the way you communicate your thoughts, your messages. Change the way you work, the way you produce output.

Change. You have to change your actions.

And lastly is a change in your reflection.

Now, you’re not thinking of any limiting beliefs. But you start gravitating towards the truth that you believe in. Things that are noble, on purpose, of pure value. 

Change your intention, change your action, change your reflection. 

 


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How to Change The Way You Think

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It may seem obvious, but this starts a changed life. If you always think like how the crowd thinks, chances are you will get results like what the crowd gets.

So if you want to see better results next in your professional and personal life, start changing the way you think -- and not only changing it but making sure you upgrade your thinking. 

Changed thinking is not automatic. It doesn’t happen overnight. You have to be consistent in thinking creatively, positively, widely.. It’s not that easy, but it is doable. You can change the way you think. 

Changed thinking is difficult. But its pay off is worthy of your investment. 

Because once you upgrade your thinking, you’re gonna experience a change in your potentials (unleashing your potentials), and a change in your performance whether you’re working, doing personal stuff, or investing time in your hobbies. 

So let me give you 5 things to consider in changing the way you think. 

Upgrade the size of your thinking

Change the size of your thinking. 

Do not remain small next year. Make your thinking bigger than this year’s thinking. Don’t think small of yourself, small of your capabilities, small of your contributions.

Have what we call, “big picture thinking”. Go beyond your limits today. Increase the size of your thinking by expanding your knowledge to other skills, other industries, by learning from mentors, and coaches. By reading books.

Listen intentionally when other people give you lessons. Do not downsize your thinking. You can expand the size of your thinking. 

Are you thinking about a bigger picture or thinking small of yourself, of your experiences, and of your world? Upgrade the size of your thinking.

Upgrade the scope of your thinking

The reason why you need to upgrade the scope of your thinking is to have clarity. A clear mind helps you focus on things that matter in your life. The reason why most people don’t have clear goals in life is because of their cluttered thinking.

Their mind is full of distractions, excuses -- that won’t really help them get to where they want to be.

To upgrade your thinking, you don’t allow your mind to wander on things that are just distractions. If you could limit your time screen on phones, your entertainment time, in order for you to do the things you said you will do, that’s a good way to upgrade your thinking.

Is there clarity in the way you think? Are you focused or just distracted? Upgrade the scope of your thinking. 

Upgrade the strategy of your thinking 

We need both efforts and strategy to excel and go to the next level of what we are doing right now.

The strategy makes you efficient and effective at work. The strategy makes you a smart professional -- that you’re not just working hard, but you have a strategy to work smart.

The way to upgrade your strategy is to ask yourself this question every day,

“How can make this better?”

If you are always thinking about how you can level up every day, you have to be thinking of making this better -- whether that is making your work better, your output better, how you develop relationships -- you’re assessing yourself if you are upgrading your strategy.

The strategy must be upgraded from time to time. So upgrade the strategy of your thinking.

Upgrade to selfless thinking.

Think not just about things. Think about other people as well. When you change the way you think, you’re not just thinking about yourself, you’re also thinking about other people.

You now become selfless, and not just selfish. 

The question you constantly have to think is, “how can make my life impact other people?”

That is a question of significance - to bringing value to the marketplace, to this world.

The more you become selfless in the way you think, the more impact you can make today, and next year. 

So upgrade to selfless thinking.

Upgrade to shared thinking

No man is an island. This is very true as well with how you think.

Upgrade from solo thinking to shared thinking.

When you share your thoughts, your ideas, your content, your suggestions, you increase the capacity of your thinking - thus, upgrading it.

When you share, it’s like giving water to thirsty people. Then you fill your cup again, then share again.

The more you share, the more you realize you’re reaching your fullest potential, you are growing step by step, move by move. 

So are there any ideas, insights, and wisdom you can share with others?

 


How To Deal With Stress

Are you stressed right now? Is there such a thing as a stress-free life?

In this blog post, we’re going to talk about how to deal with stress.

Every one of us faces some kind of stress every single day. In fact, dealing with the stressors of life only proves that we are still living.

And so when we talk about stress management, it is basically the ability to manage demands and abilities.

Demands meaning your work schedules, time with your family, your personal (or me) time to improve yourself, handling your finances, dealing with difficult people.

While your abilities focused on you - your attitude, your disposition - how are you able to cope up with the demands

So in order to manage stress, we need to have the ability to cope up with the demands of life.

There are two kinds of stress. Eustress (positive stress) and destress (negative stress).

If your demands are higher or greater than your abilities, you experience distress - negative stress.

But if your abilities are higher or greater than your demands - meaning you cope up with your demands, this gives you eustress or positive stress.

What you and I want to accomplish is positive stress. That is to have abilities to be able to cope with the demands of life.

Let me give you tips on how you can deal with stress.

Decide wisely with tradeoffs

Stress management involves decision making. The reason why some people get so many demands is that they allow it to come to our lives. They say yes to every commitment or schedule.

You and I need to develop the ability to say no. This is very difficult in the world of distractions and overcommitments. But if you want to lessen your demands, you have to say no.

And saying no would require you to accept the consequences of another decision.

For example, you’ve got to have a meeting with your boss. While suddenly you face a dilemma - an urgent issue with a family member. Saying no to your boss has its consequences. Because the next morning, you may be reprimanded by your boss or perhaps have to work longer hours to finish your pending tasks.

This is what you call tradeoffs. Whenever you say yes to one thing - which gives you the benefit, you’re saying “no” to another thing - which has its own consequence.

Elevate your emotional quotient

EQ is your ability to manage your emotions. Part of emotional management is being aware of your emotional triggers.

When you have too many demands to handle, knowing what stresses you emotionally is important. These are some of the questions you can ask yourself:

  • Where is this negative emotion originated?
  • How can you turn this negative emotion into positive emotion?
  • How can I respond better to the situation, rather than just react to it?
  • What are my emotional triggers?

Asking yourself these questions help you to elevate your EQ on a daily basis.

Actively prepare

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That means you start your routines right at the beginning of the day so you can make sure your heart, mind, soul, body, and spirit are aligned and mature.

Because maturity brings more abilities. A mature mind brings more wisdom. A mature body brings more strength. A mature spirit brings more power. A mature soul brings more peace.

What are the things that you are preparing now for the future?

Actively prepare. Prepare now. Prepare today. Prepare for the future.

Live rightly

There are stress factors that are caused by the wrong decisions in life. And these wrong decisions turn out to be one of the biggest mistakes or regrets.

So it’s very important that we go back to the foundation of living for us, not to experience more regrets, especially if we’ve been through the same situation before.

Living rightly you have to know your core values. What do you really believe in? Because if you have your core values, you can set principles in life that will be the basis of your living.

Do you have principles to live by? What are your core values? When a situation comes that tests your character, what do you do? To live rightly, you need to have your own set of values.

Mine would be faith, integrity, excellence. How about you?

Because if you don’t have one, you would be making a lot more mistakes which cause more negatives to stress in your life.

 


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How to Develop A Growth Mindset

Every action and every result of your life starts with your mind. In this new episode, let’s talk about how to cultivate your growth mindset: 

  • even if you don’t know where to start in personal growth
  • even if you are not an expert
  • and even if you think you’re not good enough 

Carol Dweck in this book, “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” shared that a person has two mindsets: a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.

And today, we’ll look at some tips on how we can cultivate this growth mindset. Some of the things I’ll share with you will come from the book itself and my own personal experiences. 

Let’s proceed to four tips on how to cultivate a growth mindset using this acronym: GROW.

Gain lessons from failures

If you don’t fail, you are not living. That doesn’t that you intentionally fail, that’s not we are talking about here. 

But rather to intentionally learn from your failures. 

A person with a growth mindset has this ability to connect his failures to his present situations as well as to his future endeavors by reflecting on lessons. 

Each time you fail, ask this important question: what is it that I can learn from this failure? 

And when you experience these failures, it’s important to develop persistence over time. You’ll face setbacks, but you have to come back quickly. Setbacks should lead to a comeback if you have your own process of getting up.

You don’t have to wait for another failure to prepare yourself, you can now prepare today. Gain lessons from failures.

Recognize challenges as opportunities 

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You’ve got to cultivate a mindset of viewing challenges as opportunities.

Opportunities for what? Opportunities for:

  • Developing character. Like gold being refined through fire.
  • Increasing competence. As you face challenges, you’re now seeing rooms for improvements, where it can give you insights on what to tweak or change in your current work setup.
  • Building connections. Challenges are opportunities to connect and reconnect with people who can help you do your job.

Have a perspective of recognizing certain challenges as opportunities for growth. 

Open for improvements

People with a growth mindset are open to rooms for improvement. They prioritize learning over seeking approval. If they can get feedback from people they trust the most, they’d politely do so.

It is an intentional way of putting yourself at risk when asking for feedback. As well all know, most feedback may be telling you the truth we all don’t want to know — but we actually need in order to grow.

Develop a growth mindset to receive constructive criticisms that are away ahead of their game in personal life. Get mentors and coaches who can speak to your life to see what are the things you missed out or overlooked — that when you’ve taken a chance to look at — you can now turn them into courses of action. 

Another way to be open to improvements is to be inspired by other people’s success. Inspiration brings more improvements to our lives in our mind is open about it. 

Work on abilities

People with a fixed mindset tend to look at their intelligence and talent as something to be permanent.

But a person with a growth mindset looks at intelligence and talent as dynamic — meaning they can work on their abilities. 

Remember that every one of us has mastered a skill because we were able to work on our abilities. Day in and day out, you work on your abilities. You spent countless hours to get good at what you do. 

Earlier, I shared that there is one secret key to grow quickly without you noticing.

Do you know what it is? 

This key is very simple: surround yourself with growing people. 

Growing people have a growth mindset. Without you noticing it, your behaviors and mindset change as you adapt to the group's common culture. So if you want to gain momentum in personal growth, start having a group of people with a growth mindset. 


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You Can't Go Wrong With These Four Resources

If there is one thing that I’m focusing on this year, it is the allocation of the limited resources that I have.

If I master how to allot these resources into their proper usage and timing effectively, I wouldn’t have to worry much about achieving success at the end of the year.

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My productivity is directly proportional to how I manage these four resources below.

1. Money

We cannot afford to waste money elsewhere. Money should be put into its proper place.

You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to understand how to allocate your financial resource. There are plenty of educational materials from financial experts around the country who teach the right approach to handle wealth. Financial experts such as Randell Tiongson and Marvin Germo, which by the way are authors of best-selling financial books that I devoured during my free time, can help you gain the wisdom to approach wealth in its fundamentals properly.

I’m not a financial planner nor would I consider myself to be an expert in the field. But by learning from many valid resources, I was able to learn some fundamentals of money management.

I remembered when I was starting my career as a freelancer, I didn’t spend money on buying fancy things like watches, and expensive coffees. Even if I was able to afford stuff, I disciplined myself not to purchase them.

Not until the time that I had a good financial portfolio and was capable of buying some wants – which by the way is still part of my money allocation every month. I allocate a small percentage of what I have for leisure and entertainment.

Early on in my career, I invested a lot of money in learning – books, online courses, seminars both in my industry and on personal development – which has helped me a lot in building my networks, and in increasing my income sources year after year.

Where do you spend your money? Be sure to spend it on things that will add value to you as a person.

2. Time

Time is unredeemable if we lose it. That’s why we have to budget not just our money, but also our time.

Technology can distract us the most. Our devices, if we are not careful, can be used to steal our most precious time from activities that will help us achieve our success goals.

I was a victim of time self-robbery myself. I was a computer addict for almost more than a decade. And though for some people, it is a usual hobby to do, I’d say it robbed me hours that I should have spent on acquiring skills and learning new materials at an early age.

Do not rob yourself by wasting your time.

I always tell this during my talks in schools, “Wasted time is a missed opportunity to grow.” The time wasted should have been spent on activities that will help you grow and mature in business and in life.

Have you had any days when you feel like you haven’t accomplished much?

It’s unfulfilling and it can affect our psyche. Those unfulfilled tasks can distract you while you are having dinner with your friends at night – there are seemingly little regrets running in your head. Unaccomplished tasks due to wasted hours are dangerous.

I like Jim Rohn’s philosophy of time. He said this best, “Don’t start the year until you finish it.” Don’t start the month until you finish it. Don’t start the week until you finish it. Don’t start the day until you finish it.”

Always begin your day with the end in mind. Identify your most important activities and pursue them with your full effort and attention.

3. Attention

Simply observe. Everyone is glued to their screens. Their attention is either focused on two things: entertainment or education

To get the most out of every hour (time), it’s important to know where you will allocate your attention. You can be entertained the whole day but found out that it’s not the right platform to place the most of our attention to.

A simple tip is this: education can be an alternative entertainment. Some people who read books feel as if it’s entertainment for them. You and I always have a choice. Manage your attention effectively.

4. Energy

You can be the most productive person concerning managing your tasks (time), money, and attention, but if you can’t function well enough, you’ll miss them all.

I’m not physically fit, but I am striving hard to get there. I managed to eat nutritious foods and take vitamins daily to cope up with everything that I do. Otherwise, I’d suffer days in bed without accomplishing much.

Your energy should be managed as well. Don’t get all your commitments scheduled in one day if you know it’s unrealistic to do so with all the energy you’ve got. You may reschedule, if it’s possible, and have the essential activities be accomplished first.

Don’t let yourself be burnout. Rest. But don’t take it as a luxury, take rest as a necessity.

Here you go! So those are the four resources that you have to allocate effectively this year. What are your thoughts on this? I’d love to hear your comments below.


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The Invisible Process

the invisible process

What you see on the surface does not tell you the entire happening. What is visible to you is not the complete story. It may be a huge part, but it does not give you the whole picture.

An almost-perfect performance on stage, a rag to riches story of a young businessman, great preaching, a sudden-viral video testimonial - all of these are the visible events.

But have you asked in one moment of your life, what is the invisible process behind all of their big events?

Because the great insight is found in what you don't see and don't know.

1. What they don't do vs. what they do

I asked one of my mentees what she doesn't do anymore since she became a Christian, I got a simple short answer: she doesn't get mad quickly.

It's that a good thing? How many Christians do you know who are still impatient for years when dealing with people?

Another example is one that I've had an encounter with our partner agency client in the U.S. I asked this very successful businessman on what he doesn't do anymore — he told me he doesn't watch movies with his family outside, they just rent local movies for free in their local library. What a frugal approach to life!

The moment you interview someone, don't just ask what they do, try asking what they don't do that everyone else around them does. You'll be surprised at great insights you'll discover.

2. Offstage vs. on stage

Preparation is different from performance. You see people perform on stage, but you don't see them prepare off-stage.

There are a lot of off-stage activities that they do on a regular basis that help them propel to the success level they are now.

I usually ask people for their daily routines and habits (I have another post about routines).

But, routines are consistent activities you regularly do. They are not glamorous. People may often find them as overly dull.

However, those sets of routines enable successful people to produce incredible results (in compounding effects as years pass by).

Another question you can ask a significant and successful person is this, "What are your daily routines or habits?". You'll find that their actions are what 97% of people don't do.

And next.

I liked off-stage or back-end people. They may not be in the spotlight and sometimes, they don't get much credit as compared to people on-stage.

So, don't just ask people on-stage, ask the staff who works behind the scenes. Their credibility and character are unseen and unknown - you can learn much from them.

3. What they post vs. what they don't post online

Reality-wise, the entirety of a person's life is not presented well in the mainstream (social or media).

With people living their lives to the fullest, they don't have much time to post daily on their Instagram or Facebook My-Day Stories. They are busy making significant activities and memories with people.

In most cases, their best achievements are found nowhere online.

It is best to meet your desired mentors and leaders offline. Ask questions offline. Take them on dinner. Your 1-hour time spent with them off the social media scene is more significant learning experience than on your 4-hour combined chit-chats on social networks.

Have you desired to see and ask people about their invisible process? Comment your experiences below.


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One Origin of Entitlement

Entitled - it is the word that many business leaders generally describe millennials today.

While I don't fully agree in the generality of the description because I've seen it first hand that there are young people who are very hardworking, diligent in what they do, respectful to the older generation and as far as output is concerned, they deliver results on time.

Reality wise, we couldn't deny the fact that there are people (in all generations) who are entitled in life and business.

The question we need to answer is, "what makes them all entitled?"

There is one source of this entitlement — self-serving mindset.

When work has become a channel of how you want to be served, rather than you serving others, you begin the path of entitlement.

Francis Kong describes work at its very core, "Work is the expenditure of energy in creating something good and of value that may make a positive difference on others."

When you start to think and act as if the world owes you something, entitlement starts to kick in.

It's difficult to remove such mindset, in fact, the more you step onto a higher level of success, there is an urge and temptation to seek for selfish desires and pleasures to the point of stepping other people's shoes.

What can we do about it? If you relate to any of these, here are some tips to help you out.

1. Distant yourself from whiners and seemingly-entitled people

It is not an easy thing to do, but if you want a different kind of life — a life of an honorable character, it is a must thing to do.

You can quickly smell entitled people; they are the ones who go out establishing their authority and stature without performing well and contributing much to the team and the organization.

They are the whiners and ones who would look for people to blame when they make mistakes. In other words, they are not responsible enough to rectify what they've done wrong.

Distant yourself from them. Seek for friends and companions who have the same core values as yours - all-out service.

2. Remember the "world doesn't owe you anything."

You can begin complaining all day that you should receive all that you want because of who you are and what you have done.

Far from reality, you won't get them all.

I like what Jim Rohn says, "Life doesn't give you what you want, life doesn't give you what you need, life gives you what you deserve."
When you think you deserve the salary increase or promotion when you have done only 2-hour work every day for the entire year, you're seeking yourself pleasurable yet undeserved rewards.

Of course, we don't deserve anything at all, but rewards are for those who work hard enough with integrity.

We sometimes need to check our prideful heart and see if there are any self-seeking desires.

3. Change your mindset and develop your attitude

It starts with your mindset and heart. Rather than being self-centered all the time, think of ways on how you can contribute to the organization.

You may be unpopular, and you may not get the credits you deserve, it is always a matter of time before one person can see the outcome of your efforts. When your efforts produce incredible results that surpass the requirement given to you, you don't just achieve, you also grow yourself and develop your character.

When skills are honed every day, why not attitude?

Bring a positive and energetic attitude in what you do. You may see negative circumstances in your life, but that's part of life. Be joyful and give your best every day regardless of whether it is other people won't notice. Success is visible, but the process is invisible.

That's it for now!

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